This is a post that I decided to do becase I can seee how this can be a really hard thing to do, considering the fact that I'm going through it yourself. WHat makes it worse it that the person has gotten into a relationship ith someone else and you have to see them togehter everyday. AND dont forget when the person agrees to be your friend again and they make you feel the same way you did before he got with some one else. Getting over someone that you loved can be relaly sacrificing and emotionally hard to handle. It's a process that is better said than done. And I am doing this based off of personal experience so bare with me. First of all I suggest you try to talk to the person and try to find out why the felt the way they did, and why did things go so badly. This brings closure to the situation and it could give yourself some answers to your many (if you have any) unanswered questions boggling in your mind. Second thing to do is to try to find a balance of where you are willing to take your now lost relationship. Its important to do what's right for yourself. If being friends works for you, do it, if throwing the person out of your life with all the memory of them, do it. It's all up to you. But remember that what you do has a time limit. It all depends on the person and how strong of feelings you had for that special person in your life. When in or ending a relationship, its always very very vey verrryyyy important to do what is best for you! Next, after you get closure with whoever you were with, you have to find closure with yourself. It can be very challenging convincing yourself that you are over someone. But the littlest thing, like a song, or food, or color, or movie etc etc, can trigger those memories. And *boing* there are those feelings again. You should think about WHY things ended with the person. Try to avoid the things that the person did that made you feel good. Because no amount of good things can ever match up to a bad thing that they've done. There is a reason why your alone, and you may not like it, but its going to make you stronger. Try putting in your mind that if that person was foolish enough to let you go, so be it! There is someone out there that will love you and do things for you that that other person failed at. All you need to do is get closure, have patience, and HOLD ON to your self confidence. Next, this is very important and I cannot stress this enough. It is okay to cry. Alot of people avoiding crying over someone because they think that they "are better then that" or they think "he/she isn't worth my tears". If you have said one of these things or something like this before, you have lied to yourself. Crying should never ever in this lifetime be looked at as a weakness (unfortunately sometimes it is). Crying is simply a way for us as humans to let go of our unwanted feelings. Think of it as washing away all of the bad feelings from your heart. Doesn't that make crying seem much more innocent? So don't be ashamed of it, its OKAY to sit on your bed, curl up in your blankets with a box of tissue and have a good cry. You will acctually be surprised of how good you feel afterwards. Next, you should surround yourself with things that make you happy. Go to the movies, get dinner with your closest friends, read a book, listen to music, write some poetry, make a painting. You can even grab some of your closest friends and go on a little road trip to literally get away from it all. There are endless things that make us happy. So surrounding yourself with them will put you in a good mood, and you'll notice how much your NOT thinking about that someone who broke your heart. And FINALLY, just have hope and be patience. No one said that falling out of love would be easy. So what we as human beings have to do is just have patience. There are other people out there for you, you just have to wait for them to come to you or vice versa. You never know who might just pop up in your life. Soo don't beat yourself up about the one you lost, just think of it as one person closer to finding "the one". Live life for today, being in love is not everything. Life is beautiful, and if you step back and look at it from that perspective, it will surely benefit you in the long run. Embrace yourself, let go, have fun! Life doesn't wait for anyone so I suggest you stop mopping around and hop on the adventure NOW. Take your time with your heart and mind. No one EVER said that love would be easy. =]
I put alot of thought and effort into this post and I hope that it helps someone somewhere who is struggling to find a way to get over the one that they've lost. Take care blogger world. Until next time! ;)
-Taylor xoxo
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