How to get over someone that you loved. . .

This is a post that I decided to do becase I can seee how this can be a really hard thing to do, considering the fact that I'm going through it yourself. WHat makes it worse it that the person has gotten into a relationship ith someone else and you have to see them togehter everyday. AND dont forget when the person agrees to be your friend again and they make you feel the same way you did before he got with some one else. Getting over someone that you loved can be relaly sacrificing and emotionally hard to handle. It's a process that is better said than done. And I am doing this based off of personal experience so bare with me. First of all I suggest you try to talk to the person and try to find out why the felt the way they did, and why did things go so badly. This brings closure to the situation and it could give yourself some answers to your many (if you have any) unanswered questions boggling in your mind. Second thing to do is to try to find a balance of where you are willing to take your now lost relationship. Its important to do what's right for yourself. If being friends works for you, do it, if throwing the person out of your life with all the memory of them, do it. It's all up to you. But remember that what you do has a time limit. It all depends on the person and how strong of feelings you had for that special person in your life. When in or ending a relationship, its always very very vey verrryyyy important to do what is best for you! Next, after you get closure with whoever you were with, you have to find closure with yourself. It can be very challenging convincing yourself that you are over someone. But the littlest thing, like a song, or food, or color, or movie etc etc, can trigger those memories. And *boing* there are those feelings again. You should think about WHY things ended with the person. Try to avoid the things that the person did that made you feel good. Because no amount of good things can ever match up to a bad thing that they've done. There is a reason why your alone, and you may not like it, but its going to make you stronger. Try putting in your mind that if that person was foolish enough to let you go, so be it! There is someone out there that will love you and do things for you that that other person failed at. All you need to do is get closure, have patience, and HOLD ON to your self confidence. Next, this is very important and I cannot stress this enough. It is okay to cry. Alot of people avoiding crying over someone because they think that they "are better then that" or they think "he/she isn't worth my tears". If you have said one of these things or something like this before, you have lied to yourself. Crying should never ever in this lifetime be looked at as a weakness (unfortunately sometimes it is). Crying is simply a way for us as humans to let go of our unwanted feelings. Think of it as washing away all of the bad feelings from your heart. Doesn't that make crying seem much more innocent? So don't be ashamed of it, its OKAY to sit on your bed, curl up in your blankets with a box of tissue and have a good cry. You will acctually be surprised of how good you feel afterwards. Next, you should surround yourself with things that make you happy. Go to the movies, get dinner with your closest friends, read a book, listen to music, write some poetry, make a painting. You can even grab some of your closest friends and go on a little road trip to literally get away from it all. There are endless things that make us happy. So surrounding yourself with them will put you in a good mood, and you'll notice how much your NOT thinking about that someone who broke your heart. And FINALLY, just have hope and be patience. No one said that falling out of love would be easy. So what we as human beings have to do is just have patience. There are other people out there for you, you just have to wait for them to come to you or vice versa. You never know who might just pop up in your life. Soo don't beat yourself up about the one you lost, just think of it as one person closer to finding "the one". Live life for today, being in love is not everything. Life is beautiful, and if you step back and look at it from that perspective, it will surely benefit you in the long run. Embrace yourself, let go, have fun! Life doesn't wait for anyone so I suggest you stop mopping around and hop on the adventure NOW. Take your time with your heart and mind. No one EVER said that love would be easy. =]

I put alot of thought and effort into this post and I hope that it helps someone somewhere who is struggling to find a way to get over the one that they've lost. Take care blogger world. Until next time! ;)

-Taylor xoxo

UPDATE POST! 1 year later

It's been literally over a year since I have created a post on blogger. So before I start, I'm gona update on a few things. The last time I created a post I was in my senior year at Roy H Mann. It was a crazy and emotional year full of lots a suprises and learned lessons. It was an emotional journey and some of those things still haunt me today. But I'm gradually getting over them, I just know it's going to need to take some time. Now I am in my freshmen year at the High School for Global Citizenship. So far it's been kinda sketchy, and the school is really mixy. It's kinda wierd because I expected to have tons of friends and fit in perfectly with a group o friends, but so far, I relaly only have one friend that I can talk to. Well make that 3, lol. I'm starting to find my place, but I'm not really there yet. I miss my friends from Roy Mann SO much! Especially my best friend, I thought that life would be simple being apart, all we needed to do was to keep in touch and see each other often, but now im starting to see that holding a long distance friendhsip together is harer than it seems. It's hard knowing that the friendship is fading slowly, but all we can do is find a way to mend it. Anywho I miss alot of other poepl too and all of the memories that we shared. Those were a good 3 years of my life at that school, but now a new chapter is starting in my life. High school is very wild, alot of permiscuoisity (fail) and alot of fights. It's hard trying to fit in because there are soo many groups. You got the spanish kids, the haitian kids, the jamaican kids, the smart kids, the gang bangers, the weed heads, the ghetto kids, the "wanabe barbies", the "wanabe cool kids" and then there's me, the normal one. This school is worst than I thought, but I guess there is nothing else I can really do. The only reason why I'm staying is because it provides lots of opportunities as far as college and a future and jobs etc etc. But school is not what I came here to blog about, it is the one thing I mostly blog about, and that is LOVE! Love is sooo powerful, and it hit me pretty hard these first couple of months of hs. I swore to myself that I wouldn't get hurt anymore but what do I go and do? Hurt myself. How can you be friends with someone when 1) You still have feelings for them 2)The person has denied their feelings for you when they have told you CONSTANTLY how much they love, how much they care about you, and 3)they have gotten into a relationship with someone new. It hurts me all the time to see them together, and I'm working on getting over it, but it's really hard. I love the kid, he's a really good frend, but I saw myself being with him,and now I have to be a witness of him making out with some other girl? Like okay I get that feelings come and go, but dont tell me you love me one day and then go out with someone the next day. My heart fell to my feet when I found out. And he didnt even tell me straight forward. Wanna know how I found out? Facebook....FACEBOOK! Like come on really? If you have feelings for someone else TELL ME! I'm not gona curse you out and kick you out of my life. Just being a man and respecting my feelings is all that I wanted. Smh I have nothing against the girl but...somethings fishy. I am NOT jumping to conclusions, I'm just going by obeservations, thats it. But like I say KARMA is KARMA. And what goes around, comes around. It'll all take some time and I will have a last laugh...Anyways I'm on rambling mode now. So im gona end the post here nd save some of this drama for another post. Later blogger world!

-Taylor xoxo