How to get over someone that you loved. . .

This is a post that I decided to do becase I can seee how this can be a really hard thing to do, considering the fact that I'm going through it yourself. WHat makes it worse it that the person has gotten into a relationship ith someone else and you have to see them togehter everyday. AND dont forget when the person agrees to be your friend again and they make you feel the same way you did before he got with some one else. Getting over someone that you loved can be relaly sacrificing and emotionally hard to handle. It's a process that is better said than done. And I am doing this based off of personal experience so bare with me. First of all I suggest you try to talk to the person and try to find out why the felt the way they did, and why did things go so badly. This brings closure to the situation and it could give yourself some answers to your many (if you have any) unanswered questions boggling in your mind. Second thing to do is to try to find a balance of where you are willing to take your now lost relationship. Its important to do what's right for yourself. If being friends works for you, do it, if throwing the person out of your life with all the memory of them, do it. It's all up to you. But remember that what you do has a time limit. It all depends on the person and how strong of feelings you had for that special person in your life. When in or ending a relationship, its always very very vey verrryyyy important to do what is best for you! Next, after you get closure with whoever you were with, you have to find closure with yourself. It can be very challenging convincing yourself that you are over someone. But the littlest thing, like a song, or food, or color, or movie etc etc, can trigger those memories. And *boing* there are those feelings again. You should think about WHY things ended with the person. Try to avoid the things that the person did that made you feel good. Because no amount of good things can ever match up to a bad thing that they've done. There is a reason why your alone, and you may not like it, but its going to make you stronger. Try putting in your mind that if that person was foolish enough to let you go, so be it! There is someone out there that will love you and do things for you that that other person failed at. All you need to do is get closure, have patience, and HOLD ON to your self confidence. Next, this is very important and I cannot stress this enough. It is okay to cry. Alot of people avoiding crying over someone because they think that they "are better then that" or they think "he/she isn't worth my tears". If you have said one of these things or something like this before, you have lied to yourself. Crying should never ever in this lifetime be looked at as a weakness (unfortunately sometimes it is). Crying is simply a way for us as humans to let go of our unwanted feelings. Think of it as washing away all of the bad feelings from your heart. Doesn't that make crying seem much more innocent? So don't be ashamed of it, its OKAY to sit on your bed, curl up in your blankets with a box of tissue and have a good cry. You will acctually be surprised of how good you feel afterwards. Next, you should surround yourself with things that make you happy. Go to the movies, get dinner with your closest friends, read a book, listen to music, write some poetry, make a painting. You can even grab some of your closest friends and go on a little road trip to literally get away from it all. There are endless things that make us happy. So surrounding yourself with them will put you in a good mood, and you'll notice how much your NOT thinking about that someone who broke your heart. And FINALLY, just have hope and be patience. No one said that falling out of love would be easy. So what we as human beings have to do is just have patience. There are other people out there for you, you just have to wait for them to come to you or vice versa. You never know who might just pop up in your life. Soo don't beat yourself up about the one you lost, just think of it as one person closer to finding "the one". Live life for today, being in love is not everything. Life is beautiful, and if you step back and look at it from that perspective, it will surely benefit you in the long run. Embrace yourself, let go, have fun! Life doesn't wait for anyone so I suggest you stop mopping around and hop on the adventure NOW. Take your time with your heart and mind. No one EVER said that love would be easy. =]

I put alot of thought and effort into this post and I hope that it helps someone somewhere who is struggling to find a way to get over the one that they've lost. Take care blogger world. Until next time! ;)

-Taylor xoxo

UPDATE POST! 1 year later

It's been literally over a year since I have created a post on blogger. So before I start, I'm gona update on a few things. The last time I created a post I was in my senior year at Roy H Mann. It was a crazy and emotional year full of lots a suprises and learned lessons. It was an emotional journey and some of those things still haunt me today. But I'm gradually getting over them, I just know it's going to need to take some time. Now I am in my freshmen year at the High School for Global Citizenship. So far it's been kinda sketchy, and the school is really mixy. It's kinda wierd because I expected to have tons of friends and fit in perfectly with a group o friends, but so far, I relaly only have one friend that I can talk to. Well make that 3, lol. I'm starting to find my place, but I'm not really there yet. I miss my friends from Roy Mann SO much! Especially my best friend, I thought that life would be simple being apart, all we needed to do was to keep in touch and see each other often, but now im starting to see that holding a long distance friendhsip together is harer than it seems. It's hard knowing that the friendship is fading slowly, but all we can do is find a way to mend it. Anywho I miss alot of other poepl too and all of the memories that we shared. Those were a good 3 years of my life at that school, but now a new chapter is starting in my life. High school is very wild, alot of permiscuoisity (fail) and alot of fights. It's hard trying to fit in because there are soo many groups. You got the spanish kids, the haitian kids, the jamaican kids, the smart kids, the gang bangers, the weed heads, the ghetto kids, the "wanabe barbies", the "wanabe cool kids" and then there's me, the normal one. This school is worst than I thought, but I guess there is nothing else I can really do. The only reason why I'm staying is because it provides lots of opportunities as far as college and a future and jobs etc etc. But school is not what I came here to blog about, it is the one thing I mostly blog about, and that is LOVE! Love is sooo powerful, and it hit me pretty hard these first couple of months of hs. I swore to myself that I wouldn't get hurt anymore but what do I go and do? Hurt myself. How can you be friends with someone when 1) You still have feelings for them 2)The person has denied their feelings for you when they have told you CONSTANTLY how much they love, how much they care about you, and 3)they have gotten into a relationship with someone new. It hurts me all the time to see them together, and I'm working on getting over it, but it's really hard. I love the kid, he's a really good frend, but I saw myself being with him,and now I have to be a witness of him making out with some other girl? Like okay I get that feelings come and go, but dont tell me you love me one day and then go out with someone the next day. My heart fell to my feet when I found out. And he didnt even tell me straight forward. Wanna know how I found out? Facebook....FACEBOOK! Like come on really? If you have feelings for someone else TELL ME! I'm not gona curse you out and kick you out of my life. Just being a man and respecting my feelings is all that I wanted. Smh I have nothing against the girl but...somethings fishy. I am NOT jumping to conclusions, I'm just going by obeservations, thats it. But like I say KARMA is KARMA. And what goes around, comes around. It'll all take some time and I will have a last laugh...Anyways I'm on rambling mode now. So im gona end the post here nd save some of this drama for another post. Later blogger world!

-Taylor xoxo

Heart breakers..smh...

Okay so attention blogger world this be tay as we all know. We all know how my bestie Melanie really liked the new kid oshane and he claimed he liked her and watever what not. But recently, as in yesterday, i found out that oshane started dating someone who knew Melanie, and the girl knew that melanie liked oshane. So personally i was tight. Ohh so eevry tight. Like WTF did I not tell u that she liked you, did you not tell me that you liked her?? Omg nigga need to learn about American girls and he need to learn FAST. That was like totally out of line, and the fact that the girl knew Melanie and knew that she liked him, was a violation against the girl code, you never take a guy that another girl who is your friend like. Well they ain't friends anymore. But still wtf I'm so tight, Melanie was all like how she ain't care about it and stuff, but she was so tight, and if she didn't care then why was she so tight. She had so much anger for him and the girl that it was out of the normal Melanie anger. I was tight when i found out this information. Like how can you just start dating someone else when u claimed that you liked someone else?? That makes no sense and he broke my poor Lil baby Melanie's heart. And then Bridgette was like oh do you like oshane and Melanie said yea and she was like okay, she KNEW that Melanie liked him but she just went along and took him anyways, damn heffa. And now she be coming up to Melanie like hi Melanie, stupid hoe. SMFH oshane not my friend anymore, I hope that eventually they have a horrible break up and he comes running back to her so she can say no nigga right in his face. lmao0o i would LOVE to see Melanie and Bridgette get in a fight, that would be so freaking awesome, i would record that shit lmao0o. But anyways I'm just fed up with all these damn boys thinking they can walk over girls like that like wtf have some common sense, did you not think that she was gonna find out?!? Dammit smfh that's just messed up, i hate the way guys act these days, its just annoying. I hope that he does something to hurt her, or vice versa, then me and Melanie will laugh in their faces! Lmao well i made this post just because i was like OOH DEE mad at that heffa. Lolz so this is the end of my blog post, later bloggers and remember, nothing is ever too good to be true, so keep your hearts on lock and trust no one who says they love you. Be safe bloggers! Tay is out...

OMG does looks matter?!? FTW

Wow ummm okay well I'm on blogger at exactly 2:43 in the am. And I'm sitting here on my cousin lab top trying to think, why do I love him, but he not the cutest person out there? does looks really matter, if the person really love you and care about you, do there looks really matter or do you just look past that? Smh i don't know if i should go with whats in my heart or his looks. This is a hard decision and that's the only reason why i didn't want to say yes in the first place. what should i do, leave a comment or a post response telling me what i should do. Later blogger world!!

Does age really matter??

Okay so we all know about that disease called love. Valentines day was a couple of days ago so that's why I'm doing this post and I'm going to ask this question. When u have feelings for someone, does age really matter? If your 3 years apart or 4 years apart, does age really matter or do u trust your heart that you were meant for each other? You know that there is a big age difference but you say that love overcomes all of that and what really matters is what you two feel for each other and you know that nothing can come in between true love. you know that nothing anyone says can separate you two, ever, you know that this is the person of your dreams and you know you would do anything for this person no matter how much it hurts you emotionally. Leave a comment or a post response to what you think true love is, what it means, and if age really matters. Be truthful and speak from your heart, later blogger world! =] x3

I LOVE MELANIE HAGLEY!! x3

LMAO OKAY THE PURPOSE OF THIS POST WAS KINDA POINTLESS BUT LET ME EXPLAIN WHY IM DOING THIS. I WAS GOING THROUGH ALL OF MY OLD POSTS FROM LAST YEAR AND I WAS READING THE ONE ABOUT THE ELECTION DAY. IT WAS ABOUT HOW I RAISED MY HAND FOR SYDNEY AND HOW I DIDNT RAISE MY HAND FOR MELANIE HAGLEY AND SHE GOT ALL UPSET ABOUT IT. I WAS ALL WHATEVER ABOUT IT CUZ NO ONE REALLY LIKED HER ANYMORE. BUT NOW I FEEL BAD ABOUT IT BECAUSE I REALIZE THAT I LOVE HER. SHE IS ONE OF BEST FRIENDS AND I FEEL BAD NOW ABOUT NOT SUPPORTING HER. SHE MEANS ALOT TO ME AND SHE WAS ALWAYS A GOOD FRIEND TO ME. IM NEVER GONA FORGET ALL THE GOOD AND CRAZY TIMES WE HAD TOGETHER. IM SOOO SORRY AND I LOVE HER TOO DEATH! MELANIE THIS POST IS DEDICATED TO YOU! I LOVE YOU!!! =]] X3

OMG!! 1 Year Anniversary!! =D

WOW I was reading my very first blog, and yesterday marked my one year anniversery on blogger! I cant belive that a year and a day ago, i made my first blog which was about the day Im never going to forget, "The note in ms.meadows class!" Lmfao woow who doesnt remember that day when me, hilary, and kandys got caught passing notes in ms.meadows class, and it was about abby (nothing bad) and she read it out loud. She was tiight, and she yelled at us for like a good 5 mins, and was gona call our parents. OMG i think that was one of the worst days of my life. I was crying and everything and i didnt want to get into trouble. But that night she aint call my house and i was relived, but the next day she was all like how she didnt forget about it and she gona call on the weekend. Soo i was like DAMMIT! And i was all mad and everything, and like cutting ass on her on blogger lmaoo0o haha. Soo i was all worried and stressed all over again yadda yadda, but then a miracle came, and on that sunday night, she never called. And on that monday morning when we were in social studies, she never even spoke of it, we were shocked! She treated us nice, collected our projects, and when we were late for class, she wrote us a late pass. I was like wow God has sent me a miracle!! I was sooo happy she forgot! Lmao good tiimes good tiimes. Im never gona forget that day in ms.meadows class. I acctually miss ms.meadows now that we have crazy ass ms.mitchell. Atleast we acctually learned in ms.meadows class smhh. Well I just made this blog out of boredom and realizing that yesterday was my one year anniversery of blogger and that day when ms.meadows caught us with the note. NEVER AGAIN will I try to pass a note in ms.meadows class. Like ms.meadows says, You in the Dog House!! Lmaoo Later blogger world! Peace =] x3